Thank you Ice and lead for posting your thoughts. Yes he does seem to have some anger issues at times but his anxiety gets him on edge about things and then blows up at me because he's worried about something and puts the blame on me for his worry. I worry him he says. For example my son let go of my hand in the parking lot and my husband freaked out saying how could I not have a hold of his hand (my son was 2 feet from me and he was walking around the car to get to his car seat (he's 2 1/2). While I understand the importance of holding my sons hand he blows it way out of proportion and says that he's worried about when I have our son if I let go of his hand or vice versa (I'm a stay at home mom btw so I'm with our little one 24/7).

He only pulls these 'stunts' mostly in public and sometimes at home. Actually last night after all this happened I tried talking to him and because he wasn't talking to me (he was talking at me) I just up and left and went for a car ride at 12am. I wasn't going to sit there and listen to his ranting. I tried walking away but he followed me into the bathroom so I walked out. We haven't talked about what happened since as I don't feel like talking to him right now. I feel like it's kind of hopeless.

I did just end counseling for myself after 3 1/2 years and while I learned a lot this marriage I'm finding difficult (I grew a lot as an individual and learned how I fit into the picture of my marriage and what I bring to the table baggage wise etc..). I feel like giving him a choice: A. We go see a lawyer. B. We go see a marriage therapist.
Not sure if that will get me anywhere as I think that will just make him angry and feel cornered. I'm think I'm going to try the approach of: I'm really worried about our marriage and the way things are going aren't you? and take it from there.

Wish me luck!!!! I need it!!!! Can I have some pocket riders :-)