Because it was on his 'list' from her doesn't imply that it was her decision. Sometimes, therapists might write down goals that the client has already set out for themselves. This is not to say your point is irrelevant; it understandably raises some concern for you, but I would be cautious in jumping to conclusions. Unless proven otherwise, the therapist may have acted totally ethically in this situation by supporting her client's goals. Trying to obtain information from her would not be possible because of breaching confidentiality, which I think you already know. I think the best solution to your situation is a talk with your husband, and telling him your feelings and needs in all of this (keeping the focus on you, not on him or his therapist). I think that will prove to be effective.