I think it's so important to remember that Ts are people. Everyone has their own biases and their own perspective on things. Ts are trained to have boundaries with their clients to make sure their own stuff doesn't interfere with a client's progression.

I think a lot of people with mental health and trauma issues did not get proper parenting growing up and therefore the concept of boundaries is either blurred or non existent. I know with my son I often have to correct him or intercept his actions so he can be safe and learn self control. I kind of see Ts as doing this also. They point out our behavior so we can recognize what is appropriate and what needs to change, this helps us to grow into healthier people. It sounds to me like your T really cares, and the fact that she has shared so much of herself with you should be evidence of that.