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Originally Posted by Readytostop
Is there such a thing as a therapy wall? I feel like I've reached a certain level in therapy... learned a lot about myself, my defense mechanisms, worked some of my trust issues out... But just when my T. wants to work on the causes of these issues (talking about my family of origin) we've semed to hit a wall...
At first I thought it was just me not wanting to delve into the past...not wanting to deal with things... but now I'm really starting to doubt my T. ability to see me through this.... like he doesn't want to go there....or he is uncomfortable... In session tonight, I talked about something that was very painful to me.. past trauma... and I got no reaction from him.... no leading questions to help me explore how I felt when that was going on...nothing to help me figure out the effects on today... nothing...
I don't know how I'm supposed to work through this alone...if I could I would have done it a long time ago... since I've been alone with this all along....
He keeps telling me I need to deal with this big pile of hurt but when I start its like he's not able to deal with it.. It was rather awkward.... 
I don't know how I would be able to share the worst things if he couldn't sit with me through this stuff tonight.
Maybe I've gotten as far as I can in therapy... Has anyone else "hit the wall" with Therapy? |
have you expressed that you feel left alone to deal with things when you talk about your traumatic history?
trauma work is tricky for both the client and the therapist and nothing helps get you through it better than a really strong foundation of safety and support. he may be thinking, "i dont want to push it" while you're thinking, "where are you!?!"
it might be helpful to voice your concerns and maybe set up some ground rules. you seem to have a grasp on what you might be needing from him in those moments, so i would suggest telling him about it.
about hitting the wall. it can happen. i liken it to the plateaus people hit when losing lots of weight. sometimes you do a bunch of stuff, and then you need to give yourself some time to adjust to the changes already made before you proceed. i dont know if thats whats at play here, but the idea of hitting the wall is not an impossibility.
there is also the possibility of going as far as one can with a current therapist. sometimes people hit the wall in their current therapy and maybe need to switch modalities or emphases that the current therapist isnt able to do.
i guess im saying, that its possible!