Hey LydiaB...
I agree wholeheartedly with the others. T's can be losers too with or without a PhD... I wouldn't really mess with it too much. Just find someone else. Unless there's a good reason to see the male T in her office, I'd actually go elsewhere. Why is he in business with her? Usually the really good ones tend to find people they respect to be in contact with on a daily basis. I'd just start fresh somewhere else and chalk it up to a life experience. I think your gut is right on target that when a PhD has so many openings, there might be a reason.

The right T is out there waiting to see you. Good luck in your journey..

Take care,

Wysteria Blue