Stumpy: Yeah, you got my fantasy down pat. I know it's pathetic and dumb but it's the pattern I've lived with forever. I don't know why.

No, of course I don't do the same with my other medical care providers and I don't have a plumber. But, NO. Only Ts right now though other people in the past. When I share the intimate details of my life and my emotions with a T, it makes me attach to them and want what I quoted. There must be something wrong with my brain and my T is trying to help me. I agree with you but I don't know how to stop.
I don't think I've gotten so many hugs in this thread. It is NOT making me feel better so I don't think posters have been enabling me at all. What they are doing is pointing out my problem that I already know and telling me to stop. Just flip a switch and presto, I don't have these wants any more. I WISH it were possible to do that!
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i feel for your t...she will never measure up to the standard you have set for her inside your head. ever...there will always be a bar set just a little higher...
everything seems to be an issue of wanting more...& then some. yeah sure we have all googled out t's. been there done that. but it seems like you are wanting access into her life...her house...almost if you could say sorry hubby but i am moving in with my t & her family now.
do you do the same for your other medical care providers? your plumber?
of course her buttons are pushed...nothing is on her terms..i
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