Rainbow I truly think you should talk to your T about this as all the replies to your original post would have me doubting myself. No it is not hopeless...it sounds like your T has a plan and you have begun working that plan. Plans take time. Maybe slow down on the reassurance asking??? You know she is there if she has a problem something I am sure she would tell you. Or when you talk to her about you pushing her buttons ask her if she would tell you when there is a problem. However in doing that you need to be willing to accept and honor those boundaries...and that most Ts set boundaries to help the client. I dont know you very well so take it or leave it...hope it helped.