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Originally Posted by rainbow8
All of my Ts have told me something like the above. It's the way I feel, so is there any solution? My T is trying to build up my Self so I won't want or need her so much. She's trying to get my child parts to tell their stories of not getting loved enough and teaching me how to love them. She's trying to use EMDR to change some of the patterns. If what you quoted is true, then is it hopeless?  |
Hopeless? No way!! Hard, dedicated work? Certainly.
I think it's about focusing on what you DO get and ARE getting from T, and zone in on ways she is meeting your needs. If you constantly look at what they cannot give you or what she has to deny you because of ethics, you will feel disappointment and rejection. Both of you fail that way... I would much rather you look at the gains.
I have had clients make a "scrap book" of all the things they HAVE gained from our work together. Positive moments. Connection. Any transitional objects. Positive affirmations in session, etc. And when you feel sad/upset about what you don't have, you have some thing physical to pull out and see what you DO have with your T and how wonderful your relationship is, even with its boundaries.