Start reading books on therapy either fiction or nonfiction. The books may help you define what you want out of T. We have an online book club on PC with several books listed that would be helpful to you. My T needs change over time. With my first T I needed a parent, coach and or role model. I needed to call her outside of session from time to time. I needed to stop bad behavior. With my second T, I am discovering the depths of my needs and problems from a traumatic childhood from an adult point of view. T has given me a transitional object that I want to hurt by tearing the stuffie apart. She made me keep it to help with my anger at my little self. how strange to have a transitional object.