This maybe absolutely 100% true but sooner or later every good mother should allow the infant to learn the skill of self soothing.

I'm worry that you are not allowing your therapist to help you do this.

This maybe dramatic, or something you just need to "try on", but perhaps you could encourage your therapist to set limits, OR at least give yourself enough credit for being able to respect the ones already in place.

I know this is hard. Very very hard, and there are times when it just seems like too much, but it isn't.

You can do it.