About a month ago, my boyfriend of three and a half years broke up with me completely out of the blue (as it seemed to me, anyway). We had been together throughout my entire three years at uni and had been planning to move in together in the near future. In the weeks leading up to our breakup, everything seemed like it was normal. He was perhaps a little distant, which I questioned him about a few times and he always insisted I was being silly and everything I fine. Next thing I know he's turned up at my house insisting he doesn't love me enough to want to be with me anymore. I was completely gutted. Heartbroken doesn't even cover it. I know we're young and everything but I really thought we would spend our lives together. Anyway, since then we have kept in very close contact (texting all day, meeting up) and we have agreed that we will still have a sexual relationship. I know what you are thinking - that he is using me for sex, wanting to have his cake and eat it, etc etc, and I wouldn't blame you for thinking that. But he keeps saying he doesn't know if we will get back together or not, but that it is a possibility. Neither one of us wants to be with the other right now (including me) but when we are together we are affectionate and loving. We kiss, cuddle, hold hands, the works. It is not just sex. Neither of us feel able to be with anyone else either. I'm so confused and feel sad most of the time. He has said himself that the reason he fell out of love with me is that I am needy and manipulative (I can be these things), but he didn't offer me the opportunity to work it out or anything. He is very much a practical kind of guy, finds it very difficult to articulate his feelings (I am too much the opposite way!). I feel so sad and confused all the time. I don't know how to feel better. Would like to know what people thought about this situation.

Thanks