Thanks for your responses.
I dont know if she was actually doing DBT...she was just sort of doing a mix of all sorts of things.... i guess it was whatever she thought would work from week to week... it was hard to trust her (I never really DID trust her, actually, because of all the threats, because she was always changing things, changing policies, changing what she said, and then the threats of "If you dont _____ then I won't see you anymore-- it felt very manipulative.

And I was a good client. I did everything she said to. I tried so hard.
Anyway.....
after she dumped me, i floundered for 2 years. I relapsed badly and nearly died, ended up in the hospital, etc. Had no resources to help myself for a long while. It was tough for a long long time until I finally found the right T for me. long story.

i just... i am NOT going to file a complaint about her... i am not sure how i feel about all of it anymore. i guess i just need to take her off her pedestal that I still have her a little bit on.
My new T is SOOOO much better-- she is trustworthy and kind, and compassionate. I am not afraid to go to therapy anymore, afraid of if she will be in a bad mood or be holding something against me like old T. And I have made more progress in 1.5 years with this new T than I did in 7 years with old T.

oh and, after she ended with me, she refused to acknowledge me anymore-- never responded to emails or anything. so i still have no closure, and zillions of unanswered questions. i still dont know what in the world happened (one week everything was fine, the next she dumped me-- i am still so clueless).. so she won't answer any of my questions.

about a year afterwards, i did write her a letter-- just saying, i wonder what happened, please forgive me for whatever i did that messed everything up, etc-- i dont know if she read it or not. the whole thing was incredibly hurtful. but on the good side, it led me to my new T who is wonderful so nowadays i can see how God worked it all out for good, but at the time it was just devastating.