no one here can answer if it is worth it. only can make that call.

we can go on for page after page of reason why you should change or how you can or should change your ways but honestly YOU have to decide at some point if you are going to.

many of us here have had unanswered needs growing up. many didn't get our emotions met by parents, caretakers etc. i get that (more than you can ever imagine( but at some point you have to decide to step up & take responsibility for your actions.

look at it this way..it''s impulse control..do you have enough $$...probably not. i don't. i could use more to pay my bills etc. banks have money. icould rob a bank to get some extra but i don't.

i have to learn to make do with the constraints placed on me due to my budget, income etc. i could rob a bank, store, etc but that will not get any extra cash without positive consequences. i could pester my friends but that also will lead to maybe temporary changes but in the long run they will soon tire of me bothering them. eventually i will have ti figure out how to manage on my own.

at some point you have to do the same. your t can help you but really you have to do the work on your own too. you say other t's have told you the same message...so at what point will you take it to heart?

change is hard, scary & difficult. sure it is nicer to have someone to hold your hand & make it nice...we all need a little nice once & a while but we all need to fall out of the nest to learn to fly too.

so the way i see it you can wallow in this 9,000 responses & pages of discussion or at some point you can decide to just take that step out of the nest & trust your t, trust yourself & be the adult & let the kid just sort of tag along.

stumpy