My BF has bipolar II and PTSD. He has recently become concerned that he might need to go on disability and/or have inpatient care.

Unfortunately, I have been his sole support for the last 3 years and have taken a severe money hit for my generosity. He is on our state's indigent care program, and I don't know if anyone will take that if he undergoes inpatient care.

He also, unfortunately, completely relies on me to take care of everything (I try SO hard to get him to take some responsibilities so that he feels he can take control of the situation, but he has a meltdown when I try; he can't even look at our budget, nor will he make his own appointments). I do not like this, but this is the reality right now, and it's likely I'll have to pay for any treatment he receives.

Can anyone give me SOME kind of ballpark as to how much this would cost? I am a freelancer and I receive payment in large sums sporadically through the year and I am terrified I will have to choose between keeping a roof over my head and getting him medical treatment.

I have been strongly urged to terminate this relationship. And again, I don't want to have to choose between my own mental health and his. All info would be most welcome!