what is healing for one person may not be healing for another...there is no one fit for all answer. you can't fit every person's issues into a box with one type of therapy method & expect it to work perfectly...not if you want the maximum healing per person.

do you want the best possible chance of maximum healing? then at some point you have to assume that the t knows what she is doing & trust that skill & knowledge. & then let go with what questions are. you have to have some faith in the matter.

some t's allow e mails, some don't...some allow calls some don't...that is their option...not the clients. it is not up to the client to set the boundaries. the t sees X number of people/week..if everyone had unlimited access then how long would it be before they were too burned out to of any use to any of the clients? would that be of any use to anyone? no. it would be downright dangerous.

different types of therapy might have different needs as far as contact as well. i can call my t & ask for a call back or leave a message but if i don't ask for a call back it ain't going to happen. there are no e mails...not an option at all. a call back lasts about 5 minutes usually.

i read here of t's that have sand tables, do art projects etc..my t does not of that...she believes in the power of the spoken word. should i get jealous? bang my head against the wall? rage against the system? her system? i could...or i could accept the fact if i opt to work with her this is what i must adapt to...if i want arts & crafts i need to find someone else.

maybe somewhere out there there is a t who will allow you unlimited e mails, calls, family access what ever..but for it seems you need to manage within the establshed boundaries.

stumpy