lovehopestrength
i grew up with an abusive father and a mother who stood by and did nothing. i forgot most of my childhood but in my late forties many memories came crashing back causing a nervous breakdown. over the years i had played dutiful daughter which led to much pain and stress. after the breakdown and return of many abusive memories i wrote my father a long letter outlining the abuse and asked that there no longer be any contact. by this time my mother has alzheimers and really no longer remembers me. i have had so much healing by no longer engaging in the family role of good child any longer, stressing over buying the right gifts for fathers day, birthdays, and christmas to insure his feelings are catered to. i, for one, do not see anything wrong with breaking off contact with an unhealthy, damaged, abusive realationship with parents in order to assure healing in one self. it has brought me so much peace and healing. i wish you luck.