"some t's allow e mails, some don't...some allow calls some don't...that is their option...not the clients. it is not up to the client to set the boundaries. "

I disagree with this some - or perhaps this is where my responsibility to myself as a client requires me to interview prospective therapists thoroughly. I would not attempt to work with one who would not be flexible on these matters - that is my boundary. So I think clients get to set boundaries too. It may come down to either side holding a "my way or the highway" line - but I do believe the option exists for each side and the therapist does not hold all the power.