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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I probably know the answer, but just wondered what others will say. For ME, I've gotten triggered and upset when I didn't get the kind of response I wanted from my T. So I decided that she shouldn't email me at all. Now I'm thinking (and from the posts in my other thread getting the idea) that emailing my T isn't helping me either. That's not clear cut, though. Usually I feel better after I send them. So, why should I give up these behaviors when so many others have no problem with emailing their Ts and receiving responses?
So, why is it okay for some to email and get answers from their T? Is it because of my particular issues, I assume? Having BPD? Not being able to handle my feelings all of the time?
I'd like to say "it's not fair" but that would be childish.  What's good for one client is not good for another. But why does it seem that I have to give up what others don't? I'm not being bitter about it. I am accepting what I have to do. I just wish I wouldn't have my particular issues, but that's silly thinking. I do have them. |
the biggest thing that strikes me as a reason why you, specifically, shouldnt exchange emails with your therapist, is that you seem to be doing it as a way to avoid dealing with your own anxiety. there are two problems with that: (1) it doesnt give you an opportunity to be with your feelings, to feel them and think about them and understand them, and (2) it doesnt work! it only leads to more anxiety and then you're calling up your therapist desperate for reassurance.
from all the posts of yours that i've read, emailing does you more harm than good.