From what you've written, I've gotten the impression that you have impulses to email T and don't try to control them. You just send off an email telling your T all about how you are feeling, etc., without trying to manage on your own or with the help of family and friends, writing in your journal, etc. I think if you can learn to control your behavior, and not email her about whatever is going on in your life at the moment, then you could return to emailing her. But it seems hard for you now to practice moderation and control, so saying "no emails" may be easier than trying to think it is allowed in some situations, not in others, etc. Just try not to do email, practice sitting with your feelings, and achieve some success. Then maybe you can add back if you still desire. It's kind of like testing for food allergies: you eliminate just about all food from your diet until you are no longer having health problems, then slowly add back one food at a time. Also, rainbow, you have written before about how your T's emails sometimes upset you. She doesn't respond as you wish and you pour over every word several times. All this can do more harm than good. So when you learn not to do that, maybe then add back the emails?

Rainbow, the reason you have different problems with your email behavior than I do, or Cindy does, or Matt, or whoever, is that we are all unique! Our Ts are unique too. You are not going to find one email rule that is best for all clients in the world. I email my T about rescheduling appointments and he is OK with that. If I emailed him about crises and feelings, he would probably not be OK with that. He likes to do therapy face to face during our sessions. I am not crushed by this. It seems reasonable to me. I like to do therapy with him face to face also. If I experience something outside of therapy that I want to share with him, I tell it to him at our session. There have been some times I emailed T and he never responded or took 5 days, and it made me feel horrible, even though I know it was probably just because he was busy, disorganized, etc. I can avoid this horrible feeling by not emailing him except when absolutely necessary. Thus, I come to no harm.