Rainbow, my former T never responded the way I wanted her to in emails. It was a big issue in therapy. She almost always sounded cold and I often felt that she was trying to present herself in a different way in writing...you know, risk management-wise. I felt that a hypothetical review board was her audience when she wrote me emails. (Being an attorney, it's easy to recognize.) I also have BPD, so it's possible the reason is the same with your T? I don't know, just a thought. I think I know how you feel though...