I think your husband needs to step up to the plate with helping with the outside activities. That would NOT fly in our house. You are feeling overwhelmed and need his assistance. I can understand him not being able to leave work early, but I don't understand at all his unwillingness to participate in his kids' activities especially in order to allow you some important "you" time. That is just what parents, and spouses, do. (Sorry. Your husband is pissing me off.)