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Originally Posted by stopdog
I do not expect them to tell me specific things to do (that may be the one and only thing i do understand about therapy). I do expect them to be able to explain how it works. Then the hope
for me is I could take the Information and figure out how to use it for myself. cBT was not useful for me and the people I consulted on it suggested it was not the approach that would help me.
But why I was asking in this thread is that I am trying to see if the things like I mentioned in my
first post were things others found useful. I do not understand how or why they they are, and to me they do not sound useful (please note, I am not questioning people's responses that they have found these things useful-I believe it when people respond they have been for them) but was curious about others.
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I think the way therapy works involves practicing talking about the feelings and experiencing the feelings while you're talking to the therapist. Sometimes if you're experiencing them, the therapist can help you interpret the feelings differently than you normally do. It's important to be feeling them during the therapy session because then you understand (feel) them for real, not just intellectually. Then if you start to interpret them differently, sometimes you start to feel differently and you're motivated to behave differently.
Another way to try to explain why experiencing the feeling
during therapy is important is because you've already tried to understand the feelings or behaviors intellectually. Understanding them intellectually didn't work to change the feelings, and the behavior they cause, the way you want to change it. So if you actually experience the feelings you need to change, and the therapist explains how to change it right then, it can help you understand more genuinely. It is an emotional understanding instead of an intellectual understanding.
Also if the therapist watches you feel the feeling or demonstrate the behavior, they might understand it better than if you just explain it.
Does any of that make sense?
I don't like CBT for myself either. I'm glad you don't want to do it
