oh you guys, I could just cry
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Originally Posted by farmergirl
I think your husband needs to step up to the plate with helping with the outside activities. ... You are feeling overwhelmed and need his assistance. ... I don't understand at all his unwillingness to participate in his kids' activities especially in order to allow you some important "you" time. That is just what parents, and spouses, do.
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Not in my house. If my H has to decide between his free time and my kids activities, my kids would have to quit their activities. That just is how it is. Is it okay? No. Not even kind of. But I honestly don't know what the solution is. Couples therapy, maybe, but when the hell would we squeeze that in??
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Originally Posted by Kacey2
I think your husband needs to be a team player this week and do some of the child-rearing. Why doesn't he help with the after school activities? It seems like you are doing all the parenting with homeschool and other things. I am really taken back by this. Please if you feel comfortable elaborate. I know this is leading the post in a different direction and I understand if you do not want to do that. I am just curious.
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My H has made it very clear that he's tired after work and he demands "down time" on evenings and weekends. If he has to do anything he gets angry and we all suffer. Does it suck? yes. Did I have any idea it would be like this when we got married at 22? No.
I am really really really unhappy right now. I worked with the kids ALL day, and then had to be at baseball working the concession stand. I left at 4:30 after FIXING DINNER (because dinner being fixed is another huge issue around here and a huge problem if it's not done) and I made it super clear to my two youngest that I would be really unhappy if I came home and the house was trashed. I went to baseball and worked the concession stand and came home at 9:15 and the house was TRASHED. Oldest son needed help with homework, so I did that with him until about 10, and then cleaned the house for 40 minutes. Not Martha-Stewart-Clean. Just dishes in the dishwasher, food put away, floor swept, counters wiped, laundry picked up. I *just* sat down and now it's almost bedtime. I am exhausted and frustrated and angry and sad. My husband LITERALLY played a computer game and drank a beer the whole time.
It is a HUGE problem and I know it's easy to make suggestions on the board (which are appreciated), but not so easy to just force another person to change.
I don't ever want my kids to feel like a burden, ever. So, I roll with it and try to be cheerful about it, but sometimes, like tonight, I ****ing hate my husband.