(((((((Geez))))))))

My therapy has definitely changed my relationships. I have better boundaries with my mom now (they still need improving, but it's SO much better). I have a better idea of what I want in a friend (not someone who will boss me around or who I feel inferior to) and I have worked harder on some of my friendships and let go of some others as a results. At this point, those are the two biggest changes, and they are ongoing.

I literally can't imagine getting a divorce, but I definitely need more out of my marriage than I'm getting...OR I need to learn to live with it how it is, and to be happy. I guess that's where I'm at today...mired in all of that.

I know that for me, I'm not the same person I was when I started therapy. I recognize that I have needs and that I am entitled to feelings and thoughts and opinions, and that just because *I* feel or think something, it doesn't mean it's not right. I have more growing and healing to do, but I am starting to see healthy changes, especially with my friends.

I'm glad that you are telling your H what you need,and that he sounds like he's hearing you, finally. I hope he follows through on the things he said he would do.
to you