"I want to have family of my own....I'm turning 40 in few years....I want to have baby....".. do you tell them that on the first date?.. most guys will run away after hearing that. but as far as playing games.. "we should get together sometime".. that guy just wants to get laid but too lazy to make an effort. he is basically keeping you on the sidelines until one of his dates go bad. this is the dating scene, especially if youre going for the wrong guys.