Omg, I can SO relate to everything you're talking about. My dh is a super cro-Magnon man too. He "works" and I'm at home, home schooling my kids, doing household chores, taking my kids to activities (my older dd is a competitive gymnast and she practically lives in The gym and my boys play baseball) and cooking/meal prep. PLUS I fulfill all the parental volunteer requirements for the kids sports. NO HELP FROM DH. He's "supportive" that I'm in therapy (like he thinks its a grand idea) but he has crazy work hours and its an enormous hassle to make an appt each week. It's never on the same day. And his attitude is always like, "huh. Oh well!" If he has to work last minute or cant help me out or doesn't want to help me out. Finally I had enough. I called my neighbor and asked if she would be willing to help me. I with I could say it was easy for me to do this but seriously....I have a VERY hard time asking for help. From anyone. For anything. I even broke down and told her that I'm in therapy and it would most likely be a weekly thing. She was awesome about it and I do still have a hard time taking advantage of her offer, but I have no choice. I NEED to be in therapy right now. Like, its not even optional. It's either therapy or in-patient, kwim?

It's *so* unfair to have a dh who just doesnt "get it" sometimes (or all the time). What's even more unfair is having literally nothing to work with, no solutions.

So, anyhow. I know exactly how you feel (or close enough to it). I got married very young too BTW. I never in a million years would have thought my life/marriage would be so.....hard. we could use couples counseling too probably, but like you, have no time! I'm lucky *I* get to go! So, no advice really, just want to let you know you're not alone.