Hi there. I am a former bulimic and also a military brat. I think I have some insight into how isolating and unstable military life can be. And at least in the 70s and before you were not supposed to show weakness/need mental health professionals.

I know it is almost cliche but geneen roths book "breaking free from compulsive eating" helped a lot.

But the main thing that broke the cycle with me was learning what good food was. A lot of my overeating I know think was wanting flavor. I grew up with processed foods, margarine and also came of age when everything was fat free and therefore loaded with sugar and chemicals.

Once I started eating real food I calmed down. My body wanted to taste something other that high fructose corn syrup and msg and garlic powder. I became more satisfied which meant I didn't want to throw up what I had eaten because I was still unsatisfied and wanted to try binging again to see if it would work. This time. Of course it never does.

Once I started learning about food as food, keeping it down, my blood sugar stabilized, my moods became more stable and I was able to handle instability better. You have chosen an unstable lifestyle and you owe it to your child to work on internalizing stability. And you owe it to yourself.

All or nothing just does not work. Whole foods. Water. Vitamins and walking do. You need exercise that you can maintain for an hour, nutrients and hydration.

I promise you that if you walk every day, aim for 40 grams of fiber a day and a liter of water and take a multivitamin you will start to feel less out of control.