I totally get what you are saying, skycastle, because I used to do the same thing. Relaxation and/or grounding exercises tend to make me feel more vulnerable and that can result in tenseness and irritability in me. I have been successful in doing the relaxation exercises at home, by myself, but when asked to do them in session or in a group, I'm not very successful . . . even with practice I do make sure never to do any exercises with my eyes closed when in the company of other people. I think that just increases my anxiety or tenseness. I save the closed eyes to when I'm alone at home practicing. Sorry it was so hard for you!