I wish you could see MY T, granite. He is so different from the mother, you would never get them confused or feel the way the mother made you feel, when you're with him. He is so gentle, even when he is laughing at me, because I know he is holding me in his head, if that makes any sense. Not shutting me out and making me feel bad and ashamed and like I am just a big bother, just for talking and being, like the mother always made me feel. S0metimes T says "my kids" - he can mean his own real adult children, or his child patients - but whenever he says it, I like to think that he means me, too. he is thinking warmly of me, and he cares about you, because I told him you were one of my new friends and so smart, and how we both call her 'the mother'. I think I was so used to that name, that i didn't process how scary it really was until just recently, and still not completely. No answer required, granite, just feel the love we all have for you.