if he is in danger they will admit him to get him stabilized. most hospitals have charity care,..but again he needs tio step up & take care of it.

i read your other thread...this guy is a piece of work (if you pardon me saying so)...you can not or should not live your life worried about what he might or might not do if you don't follow thru on actions supporting him.

he needs to step up. right now he is abusive, dangerous & not having to be responsible because he knows you will cover things.

to me that doesn't really help him...it just keeps the pattern going...if he wants help he needs to get it..you can't make him.

you said he was physically abusive, choking you etc but then he always apologizes...really? but now you wonder about paying for his bills because he might hurt himself...he needs to get his act together..you can't do it for him.

if he goes into the hospital & is forced to deal with the bills..well welcome to the real world. lots of people have multiple medical conditions & manage or make arrangements. he can too..without depending on you.

& in my opinion..you need to step away before he hurts you more than he has..inpatient care may or may not make a difference with him...you may end up covering his thousands of $$ in bills & he may return bitter & angry & worse of than before. then what.

step away. get perspective. get a therapist by yourself so you have someone safe to talk to.

it won't be easy...but in the long run i think it's the best option...

stumpy