well said, i have said too that i understand alters need their space. like you say I too feel talking to alters feeds the condition rather than helping it. I also feel getting responses from alters about my difficulties uncomfortable because although the person with the alters sees them as real i (having difficulty trusting people at the best of times ) am unable to distinguish the 'real' person behind the alters so do not trust them or their replies as being sincere. it isI never asked for each specific form of Dissociation to have its own forum, all i asked for is a forum for those without alters because it is extremely difficult to form bonds with those who are constantly changing personalities and alters and even more difficult to fathom out wether you are talking to an alter or whole person. ok to DIDs alters are whole people but to the rest of the population they are a part of a person because there are more than just them in the body! kind of like trying to find the real gold coin, if you are only given the one to choose from it is easy, you know you have chosen the right one, but if you are given the choice of 6 fakes and one real one then you are never certain whether you have chosen the right one!