Yes, I have definitely seen - and felt - how therapy is changing me in ways that are starting to affect my relationships. Three of my friendships are getting stronger and other friendships are starting to slide because I can now see how unbalanced and unhealthy those people are with whom the friendships were formed; they were doomed from the start, and I am beginning to see that now.

My marriage is also starting to change because *I'm* starting to change (I've only been in t since June). I'm starting to see, for the first time, that *I* have value outside (and inside) of my marriage and that my opinions alone are worth something. I'm starting to see that I am important enough to consider and that my needs, thoughts and feelings are OK without someone else's (dh's) "approval". I DO NOT want to get a divorce, but honestly don't know what the future holds anymore, to be completely honest here. I'm beginning to change in healthy, positive ways and am not sure how my marriage is going to adapt, or IF it will adapt because the ways in which it used to work aren't working anymore because the "old" me is slowly disappearing. Does that make any sense?? DH needs to be in t himself, and we need to go together too, and he won't go. So for now, I need to concentrate on myself FIRST and let the chips fall where they may; what else can I do? I don't like this option, but my choices are limited: either work with what I have and be happy despite whatever it is he is or isn't doing......or walk out on my dh.

My relationships with my family of origin......I'm not even going to go there right now. It's because of them that I am the way that I am.

So, in short, yes, therapy has definitely had an impact on my relationships. I literally had no idea being in t would kind of highlight all the dysfunction in my relationships in this way and also my non-existent self esteem. It hurts. But I can see how it is going to help me in the long run.