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Originally Posted by beautiful.mess
I agree with this. My t has told me that therapy is not an exercise in intellect, because if it were, then there would be a LOT less clients/patients. It's really an exercise in emotion/feelings, which for people like me, is VERY difficult because I've never believed my feelings/emotions deserved any attention; they always came second to others' feelings/emotions for various reasons. Plus, I'm a HIGHLY rational, critically thinking person - I NEED STUFF TO MAKE SENSE TO SEE THE RELEVANCE! - so concentrating on the feeling and emotion behind the intellect has been incredibly difficult.
stopdog, I totally understand where you're coming from with all of this. I don't understand HOW or WHY this works. I don't think we're ever going to get the answer we're looking for. I'm just trying to push that aside and trust the net is down at the bottom somewhere; I have nothing left to do. I am frequently asked by people (who know i'm in t) if it's "helping" and I don't know how to answer that. I mean, I guess it is. But only if I don't think about it too hard (which is an exercise in itself for me). *sigh*
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On some levels I disagree that therapy is not an exercise in intellect. Clearly, at first, there has to be some acknowledgment and experience of emotion - both good and bad.
However, later, I think it is important to be able to step back and rationally evaluate our approach to our own emotions, our behaviors and the things that our holding us back.
I think it's important to blend both the intellect with the emotion, and that is how real change occurs.