I had a bad manic episode 4 years ago and my ex and his family completely sabotaged me and dropped me from their lives. My sister is still very close with my ex and his large family which has been hard on me.

My sister recently got engaged and they are throwing an engagement party for her. She lives an hour flight away or 7 hour drive. I was trying to work things out so my son and I could go and communicated this to her. She mentioned that my ex's family's name and said she was inviting them. I thought it was my ex"s parents only but I received the eVite yesterday and it includes my ex-husband, his parents and all his brothers and their wives. There are not many people invited to the party so it would be extremely uncomfortable for me to attend. I decided not to go, but didn't say how hurtful this was and why I really wasn't going as I don't feel I can do that with my sister. She has made it clear that they will be in her life.

They say they are waiting a year to get married, but if that's the way the wedding will be I have no desire to attend. I know I'm thinking of it already, why worry now, but it's how I feel.

Thanks for listening.