STUMPY: you said he was physically abusive, choking you etc but then he always apologizes...really? but now you wonder about paying for his bills because he might hurt himself...he needs to get his act together..you can't do it for him.

Stumpy (great name, I love it!) this was a single incident that prompted him to go back to his pdoc and attempt an entirely new medication. As he is also type I diabetic he is limited in his options for medication. He is now on Trileptal, had had problems with carbamazapine (in the same family) but we are watching for the symptoms he had with that and thus far they are not manifesting. Two therapists (couples and his own therapist) and the pdoc -all- agree this was a textbook psychotic paranoid incident and he is MOST desirous of not repeating that. We've had some rough days as he adjusts to the medication but so far he is better each day. He bumps it up again tonight (he will do this four times in total).

What is really positive about the inpatient therapy is that due to an incident five years ago he "swore he'd never go back." For him to actually look at it and voluntarily check in is a real step for him and a very positive one. I said quite bluntly in therapy today that I couldn't pay for it and that I do not have the ability or the willingness to be a caretaker for the rest of my life. So tomorrow he is going to go to the hospital and start gathering information for himself. Also a big step.

I think at this point he will find out what he needs and if its covered by the indigent care program, it is actually a viable and probably good option for him. But thank you all for reinforcing that I do not need to be saddled with this--the way things are going is all for the good.

Much appreciated!