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Old Oct 05, 2011, 07:15 AM
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Originally Posted by skysblue View Post
So, has anyone ever tried and succeeded creating a temporary emotional detachment from T?

And to do that I think I'll have to be sure that no emotions show up in session this month. I'll have to look for some professional psychology journals or something like that to discuss with her. I will use the month of October to gain pure knowledge about the stuff of the mind. I can bring in case studies and we can dissect them and form useful conclusions. I will use the next 4 sessions simply as book study and then we'll re-introduce lab work in December.

I think it's a great plan, don't you?
Not really. I can only speak for my experience, but I've spent the last 8 months becoming aware of my unconscious emotional detachments and have only begun to access some emotions in session. I've also worked hard to help build the relationship with my therapist and she's begun to make me aware of how some of my actions and reactions can negatively affect relationships. And our relationship is built on honesty, imo.

To try and purposefully emotionally detach - I feel that would be a giant step backwards and a bit dishonest to our relationship. As hard as it would be to be away from my therapist for that amount of time, I'd much rather talk with her to find constructive ways to deal with missing her. I care about the woman. I'm allowed to missed her.

And you are allowed to miss your therapist, skysblue. I hope you'll find a constructive way to deal with this.
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Thanks for this!
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