Hi Wysteria!

I liked your idea about trying to deal with the emotions & the part i remember, and not worrying about filling in the blanks. "Letting it flow and untangle at its pace" is what i need to do. Part of my problem is in trying to understand everything and getting stuck and hung up (or my mind going in circles) until i find the "answer" or "solution." It's very crazy making!!!

Hey Peaches,

Boy did I ever relate to your story about Connie. Man that must have hurt badly. You know the invalidating part of me I even named "Southern lady" when I did my parts work. That children were to be seen thing can be deadly. How many times were you told when you were very angry or frustrated that "you are just tired?" or to go to your room until you could "get yourself together and be presentable" ? Ugggh!! I still get invalidated all the time by my boss who is also my ex-husband..both in protecting the employees and kids from him and in the work that I do and he treats as if it is monumentally unimportant. Drives me insane, literally.

I hope you will continue to let things unravel with your T as you do you work with them. I've noticed that if I let the stories just come up as they are triggered by him, that they come back in more detail because if I just try to remember them on my own the natural blocks and distortions prevent me from thinking them through completely. I try not to so much on my own anymore, unless I am concentratedly writing about one of them in particular like a specific event or moment.. Don't know if that makes sense to you...but maybe try not to find answers or patterns in the memories yet...just an idea there.

Best wishes in your healing journey and lots of hugs for the hard work you are already doing..

Wysteria Blue