The age old question would be "am I better with her or without her?" Ask yourself "do I love her?" "Do I want to be with her?" "Am I happy with myself, secure in who I am?" "Is this just a hard spot that we are going through, since all couples have rough spot, and can I get through it, giving her the support she is asking for?" "Can you see yourself in ten years, happy and healthy, with kids and this partner?"

No one can tell you what to do, you have to decide for yourself. Have you talked to her about joint marriage counseling, and have you considered getting counseling yourself? You say you want to go back to biology, and she wants a PA program but you can not afford for both of you to return to school at the same time. Have you considered working for several years until she is done and then returning yourself? Remember it is never to late to return to school. Would she be willing to agree to an arrangement like this?

I don't know if this will help at all but I wish you luck and let us know how you are.

Since you ask most days I can not remember.
I walk in my clothing, untouched by that voyage.
Then the almost unnameable lust returns.
----Anne Sexton----