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Originally Posted by tohelpafriend
Yes, my daughter dropped the news on me out of the blue in 2002 that she was a lesbian, and felt she had been from high school. I think there's much more to the choice in sexual expression than yielding, like the difference in male/female anatomy.
I did alot of research on the subject, and all the experts agree it has much to do with
not being "born that way", but of the mother/daughter bond and identity. The fallout has been her refusal to see me because my beliefs don't allow it; this has all caused pain, loss of her love and time with her and a shattering of the bond between us. Is that a good thing; I don't think so. I've been attracted to women for who they were, but never could imagine sexuality with one. Studies further prove out long term guilt and chronic illnesses, shortened life in male and female homosexual sexual acts. The sadness and loss of seeing her has brought more pain into my life than anything. My love is unconditional for her; but she is the one who has laid down the terms....all my lifestyle or nothing, Mom. Is that love?
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I agree with what Scorpiosis said in her post. Homosexuals, bisexual, asexual, heterosexuals etc(there are more)...they're all born this way..as Lady Gaga would say. Your daughter can't be heterosexual any more than you can be homosexual. If you really do love your daughter "unconditionally" then you'll accept who she is. I'll ask one simple question - do you love your daughter more than you dislike her orientation /who she loves. She can't change who she is, any more than you can. Don't believe the archaic old fashioned myths. Regarding who lives longer - that's really not what you're worried about. Any one of us could get hit by a car. The mother daughter bond isn't worth breaking. The original poster is looking for like minded people, not for criticism of who she is or gay people.