Doesn't avoidance come with its own significant cost?

At least it does for me. To constantly defend myself is exhausting. And the real kick in the pants for me is that avoidance makes me loose time and connection-- not in the DID sense, but in the way that makes it super hard to be mindful in my daily life. And when I can't be mindful, I can't really connect in a meaningful way to other people.

Anne