I think that your son must have his recess time with the other children. Socialization and play time is so very important for the kids for them to learn and grow. Playing games with the other kids may very well help your son to advance in his processing time as well. It's all interactive in my book.

A 504 plan is a great idea and a great place to start. It's similar to an IEP and lays out stratagies to use with your son during his school day to make it more productive and successful for him.

My grandson has issues in school as well and he has an IEP, but he is also coded so the IEP is more specific to his needs.

I would strongly suggest that whatever work he is unable to finish in class be able to be brought home for home work each day. I don't think he should be graded any differently than if he was able to complete it during his class time either. Ask the teacher if there is a place in her classroom that may be more comfortable for your son to work in with less interruption. Also, is there an aide in the classroom? If so, it might be helpful for him to have someone helping him if he needs it.

I hope you find something to help your son. I know how hard it is for the both of you.

Wishing you well!