OMG. My (married) BFF and I ran into my T on the street at lunch one time and I was ready to accuse them of doing it behind my back. Riiiight. I think part of the craziness over this topic in general is unresolved Oedipal feelings, and/or sibling rivalry issues? (I sound like my *** brother, I'm sorry!) Hopefully T will recognize her part in this snafu and give you some real guidance instead of the usual shrinky dodge step. Cuz you might be freakin out more just because you're (maybe) leaving town? This wouldn't matter in the future, after you worked everything out, so what one thing really needs to be worked out to make it okay now?