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Originally Posted by Rose76
I see that having trouble saying "No" to being used is not a problem unique to my life. (Not that I ever thought it was.)
Among the people I like and, in some cases, even love, there are some who are prone to wanting to "use" me. Since some of these are persons whom I really do love, I don't see an easy solution in just avoiding them. Well, now that I think of it . . . . . I am avoiding some of them to a degree. I mean to say that it can be hard to know and care for people who I do want to have in my life, but who tend to put me in the position of having to say "No" on a frequent basis. I guess it's just a skill I'm going to have to work on. I think doing that would be a way for me to have more respect for myself. I think that might be something I need to have more of. I'm trying to come out of depression and I made some progress. I really need to make more.
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Now my dilemna continues but this one got me by surprise. My neighbor, who is an alcoholic, brought over one of her buddies who wanted to meet me. I am in a different culture and don't want to insult the person, but I am not interested in 'having a gentleman caller'. He doesn't speak english very well and getting my point across gently hasn't gotten me anywhere. what to do, what to do?