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Originally Posted by skysblue
Melissa - do issues come up between you and T? Do you find yourself having to resolve those issues? Then, you're attached. If not, you're not attached and you're not having the opportunity to have real-time addressing of real-time issues with T which, of course, duplicate issues we need to address in RL.
The book, "Attachment in Psychotherapy" by David Wallin is great.
I'm wondering if cognitive therapies don't depend on this so much -CBT; DBT, etc.
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I'm not sure I agree with this. It seems to me if you are having problems with your T, you don't have a secure attachment. You are either perhaps too dependent or not trusting. People who don't have to deal with those kinds of issues generally attach easily and naturally to their T and therefore there are not the conflicts that come from an insecure attachment that has resulted from a difficulty in trusting or insecurity causing over-dependence.
My T and I have no conflicts over our relationship. I feel very securely attached. We work well together and do work on real-time issues all the time. It doesn't take attachment issues with your T to be able to make progress on real-life issues.