I guess the reason I ask is because alot of the posts on attachment seem almost unhealthy. I am not sure what to consider as a healthy attchment...I trust her but I dont think my life would be shattered if she were to retire or whatever. I do feel like we work through my real life issues and that I am making progress. Even she say I am working hard and making great progress on the big issue right now (shock!). then maybe my issuecright that I am working on may be interferring with my the attachment and determine whether it is healthy or unhealthy. Sorry I probably dont make sense.