Quote:
Originally Posted by Christine08
Hi, I'm new here and this is my first post since the introduction one. I'm sorry for my bad English. The topic of today comes because of a particular situation. Have you ever entered a room and suddenly you just realize that everyone was talking about you and suddenly changes the subject. All my life I’ve been around false people, people who talk behind your back, even know, grownups can be like this. I just wonder, how can this be possible, how can a mature adult be cruel and false like that, I honestly canīt deal with it. I don’t know that it’s just me but everyone keeps telling me that all people are like that and that I should get used to it, but I can’t. I’m I the only one who is affected by this? Maybe it’s because I suffered from psychological bullying when I was younger. I wonder. Thanks for taking time to read this.
|
Hello, Christine!
Sorry to hear that you're having a difficult time. Your English is fine, no problem at all. And yes, I have walked into rooms and felt that everyone had been talking about me. It's kind of a strange feeling. I've talked it over with my therapist at length. We've decided that sometime people are talking about me, but most often it's me just thinking people are talking about me without that really being the case. In other words, sometimes I feel so self-conscious and worried that I think people are talking about me when they're not really doing so.
My T says that most people spend most of their time thinking and talking about
themselves, not other people. She says it would be strange and hard to believe if I walked into a good-sized room with quite a number of people in it and they were all talking about me. She says that most people complain that other people pay no attention to them, not that they're always talking about them.
So, maybe they're not all talking about you. Maybe most of the time they're not even thinking about you. I know it may be hard to believe, but it's quite possible for you too as well as for me. After my T talked to me about it, I calmed down quite a bit and it seemed that people weren't talking about me so much. Which let me relax A LOT! I hope it will help you too!
__________________
We must love one another or die.
W.H. Auden
We must love one another AND die.
Ygrec23