OMG dijmart! That's terrible!!!

I don't *think* that alcohol's a big issue with my mother, which is probably why I could get away with -- when she would visit-- putting a glass in her hand before she even had a chance to sit down. Mine too, I'll admit it, for everyone's sake(!) I feel so bad that you have to deal with that in addition to everything else.

She "behaves" herself better when others are around (which made phone calls particularly problematic), so when in person, I always tried to make sure to have that buffer in place. Her style is to carry on about everyone else in the universe. Nothing's ever her fault. She'd always be disapproving of anything about me, but saved her real rants for behind my back. (Luckily??) Hence, handing over no ammo. Fortunately, she's not been able to weasle back in (and doesn't know where I live, except which city), but it took pretty much a decade to accomplish.