I don't think it is okay if it got the reaction that it got from you. My last T told me, "you are sexually frustrated," and I felt the same way.....

Like I was not prepared for the discussion, and had not welcomed or benefited from it, and I said so.

Now, I am approaching my new Ts with a lot of anxiety that would NOT be there.....if this hadn't gone down.

I don't think there should be any *standard* therapy questions, but that's just me...I have a big issue with stuff in therapy seeming canned, or one-sized-fits-all, but others, of course, feel differently.

Intimacy issues, it seems to me, need to be approached with a lot of care...particularly if there is any history of trauma (which I made VERY clear early on). I can't speak for your situation, but in my case, I was creeped by my male T passing that kind of judgment on me. I mean, come on! Would I accept this now...no? but I felt vulnerable. I suppose he picked up on that.

(((I hope I'm not projecting too much here. Others may disagree of course, and I don't want to heighten your concern unnaturally. If your T experience is otherwise favorable, perhaps it just needs to be tweaked and you can flag it with your otherwise-good T. Go for it! )))

Otherwise....Go slow. Protect yourself. Listen to your own instincts when it comes to questions that begin with "IS IT OKAY?" If you're wondering, there's a good reason......

All my support goes out to you.....