I would be very leery if he has a child.....what did he learn from that? or does he still just go around & have sex with girls & leave them with what ever happens. Some guys learn when they are not smart with their actions & others just really don't care.

Before I ever got involved with him, I would definitely want to know what his moral values were all about & wouldn't waste my time on him if he hadn't changed & was that careless with another girl even if he thought he "loved" her. The thing is that when you just start talking with people, that is where an emotional attachment starts....feeling sorry for him & what happened in his life or whatever he might play on.....just tends to suck people into even more of a relationship before you even know it.

Be wise, with your past experience with him, even if he says he's a different person....you need to know what that difference REALLY is....it could be that he's even changed for the worse, not for the better in ways that are even more important to a relationship.

Yes, this may not be the case, & he may have really learned from his bad choices, but it's much better to be safe than sorry & make sure you know where the person is coming from before allowing yourself to even get a little involved as a friend. If he wasn't wise enough to NOT have a child with another girl......I would advise you to really get to know what wisdom he has NOW before allowing yourself to get involved even at a friendship level.