Ygrec, I disagree with your "right" statement though it is something to consider. Pretense is a stage up there with denial. We are born, have the ability to grow and mature. Understand that maturity is relative in that everyone does not age simultaneously along the same path or especially with the same traits. We all have a right . . . to be the best that we can on our journey. I see maturity in the manner in which you write. Yet I write without the eloquence of your depth.